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# How to Communicate with Someone Who "Doesn't Get It"

Feb 28, 2023

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*Have you ever tried to communicate with someone who just “doesn’t get it”? *

In situations like that, I’ve found that it’s useful to just stop and recognize the other person may not have all the info or experience I have just yet. Perhaps that’s why they don’t see things the way I see them.

My grandfather was in the restaurant business back in the 1950s and 60s. He went to a business conference once about how to train his employees. The speaker got up on stage and asked for a volunteer. He then asked the volunteer to teach him how to smoke a cigarette. Back then, everybody smoked cigarettes.

So, the volunteer said, “Okay, step 1 is to put the cigarette in your mouth.” The speaker put the cigarette in his mouth sideways. Everybody started laughing.

Then the speaker asked the volunteer, “Now what should I do?” The volunteer told him to light the cigarette. Then the speaker tried to light the cigarette without turning on the lighter because he didn’t know how to turn it on. The audience started laughing again.

Eventually, the speaker made the point that when you train employees you need to break things down for them step by step and “show them” instead of “tell them” how to do their job properly.

So, instead of getting frustrated with people who don’t see things the way we see them, we may find it useful to recognize that the other person may not have all the info we have. Once we realize that, we can break things down for them step by step in a way they can understand.

So here's my ridiculous question of the day:

*What can you do today to be a little more clear or patient in a situation or relationship that may call for it?*

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##### Gibran Nicholas

 Gibran Nicholas is the best-selling author of *The StorySeller Adventures*, and the founder and CEO of Momentifi, a financial information and content marketing platform providing daily coaching and expert marketing content to thousands of housing and financial professionals. With more than ten thousand graduates, Gibran’s StorySelling coaching system creates top producers in all industries. He became a millionaire at twenty-five and lost everything two years later, only to regain it all, plus invaluable life lessons, over the next decade. He shares with you many of those lessons in his book, daily emails, blog, and weekly podcast. Gibran’s primary focus is to help you and your team use archetypes and StorySelling to stay inspired, find more meaning in your work, and grow your business. Gibran is a lifelong student of business, politics, religion, and the human experience. He lives in Alpharetta, Georgia, with his wife, Mandy, and their three children.

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